In the last blog post, I touched on why we should rein­vent our life after 40, 50 or 60. Today I would go into the nitty-gritty on var­i­ous ways to rein­vent life after 40, 50 or 60.

How to rein­vent life?

In my opin­ion, you have to divide your life into four accounts, i.e.

Account 1 – phys­i­cal health

Account 2 – relationship

Account 3 – mental/spiritual being

Account 4 – actual money in your bank

Each account is impor­tant. But before we go into the details I would like to start off with the right mindset.

Right mind­set

First we must acknowl­edge that aging is manda­tory irre­spec­tive of your race, sex, posi­tion in soci­ety. Aging is a bio­log­i­cal process where our body cells will one day die com­pletely as time goes by. Soon after birth, every human is get­ting older each day, get­ting sick occa­sion­ally and for most peo­ple sick­ness becomes syn­onyms with old age. And even­tu­ally we breathe our last breath and we call it death!

So aging is com­pul­sory but grow­ing old is really optional. Most impor­tant of all is to have a pos­i­tive and opti­mistic mind­set when you are enter­ing 40s, 50s or 60s. You age is just a num­ber attached to the bio­log­i­cal process of your body but your men­tal state is a totally dif­fer­ent entity where it can be pro­grammed to as lively and as young as possible.

If we want to rein­vent our life suc­cess­fully, we must first have a right mind­set that get­ting old phys­i­cally is just a phys­i­cal process while the mind could be young at what­ever age we want to posi­tion it. Have you ever won­der why some­times we could be so happy remem­ber­ing sweet mem­o­ries of events hap­pened some 20 or 30 years ago? It is because we choose be happy at that instant and we feel young at heart!

Our phys­i­cal bod­ies will lose agility as we age, but our minds don’t have to lose a step. Our steps could be fee­ble and slow but our minds could be happy as ever if only we know how.

Phys­i­cal health

In order to have a healthy body to wel­come your mid­dle age, the very sim­plest step to take is go for a com­plete med­ical check up. Our body is like a machine with mov­ing parts. It is said that any­thing that moves needs main­te­nance. Your car needs an oil change every 5,000 or 10,000 km (of course depend­ing on the make and spec­i­fi­ca­tions). Sim­i­larly we must love our body and it is essen­tial to find out what could have went wrong or what could be wrong in years to come. How­ever, this could only be revealed by a med­ical check up and con­sult­ing with your fam­ily doctor.

Of course it is beyond the scope for this blog to dwell into the details of phys­i­cal health here. Nev­er­the­less you have to take the nec­es­sary action or reme­dial actions with respect to your health sta­tus. Fol­low what your doc­tors say: live a healthy lifestyle by eat­ing prop­erly, exer­cise reg­u­larly, sleep suf­fi­ciently and cut­ting off com­pletely or reduce the 3 habits which would make you age faster:

  1. Smok­ing
  2. Drink­ing alcohol
  3. Seden­tary lifestyle [From Wikipedia: Seden­tary lifestyle is a med­ical term used to denote a type of lifestyle with no or irreg­u­lar phys­i­cal activ­ity. A per­son who lives a seden­tary lifestyle may col­lo­qui­ally be known as a couch potato. Seden­tary activ­i­ties include sit­ting, read­ing, watch­ing tele­vi­sion and com­puter use for much of the day with lit­tle or no vig­or­ous phys­i­cal exer­cise. A seden­tary lifestyle can con­tribute to many pre­ventable causes of death.]

All the above three habits are proven sci­en­tif­i­cally that will make you age faster and are causes of many pre­ventable diseases.

In addi­tion, the accom­pa­ny­ing signs and symp­toms of menopause (or andropause for men) for mid­dle age will have some changes to your body and mind in gen­eral. This nat­ural nor­mal hor­monal change can some­times be a source of anx­i­ety. It is best to seek med­ical advice or treat­ment if the need arises. Most impor­tant of all is to rec­og­nize that it is a nat­ural process in which every man or woman will undergo dur­ing mid­dle age, just like chil­dren enter­ing puberty — a nat­ural process.

An impor­tant aspect of health is how are you going to man­age your sex life. Unless you choose to lead a life of celibacy, chances are you will need to “rein­vent” your sex life in one way of another. Again, this is not a blog on this topic and read­ers are advised to get expert help from qual­i­fied personnel.

Rela­tion­ship

By rela­tion­ship here I mean your rela­tion­ship with your life part­ner, spouse, fam­ily mem­bers, friends and peo­ple around you gen­er­ally. One impor­tant fac­tor when you are enter­ing mid­dle age is to decide how are you going to spend your time (there will more free time as you grow older) on a daily basis.

I have a cou­ple of friends who are in their late 40s or early 50s who are still not mar­ried. I once asked them why don’t they get mar­ried. I never get a sat­is­fac­tory answer from them or rather they never tell the truth. They are “rich” (own at least a house and car; earn enough to lead a com­fort­able mar­ried life), with a good career or busi­ness and hand­some (or pretty) as well. They are the real “dia­mond bach­e­lors” — pre­cious but hard to own!

As we age into 40s, 50s or 60s, our love rela­tion­ship may have gone through some ups and downs in many dif­fer­ent ways.

If you are mar­ried, check whether you are as lov­ing as before. For exam­ple, love your hus­band or wife more even if he or she is not per­fect. Some­times com­pro­mise is word of the day when con­flicts (big or small) occur. Sac­ri­fice might be another virtue you might want to prac­tise more.

If you are dat­ing, check whether it is time to tie the knots. Choos­ing a wrong life part­ner at this time could be more ago­nis­ing. Sim­ple ques­tion to ask is: am I really happy with this guy or gal I am dating?

If you enjoy being sin­gle, embrace it totally and there should not be any­thing wrong to be sin­gle. How­ever do your plan­ning as regards to your later life on mat­ters like: who is going to take care of you in your end days or in the event of any unfore­seen even­tu­al­ity. You should be respon­si­ble for your actions in your own love life.

What about rela­tion­ship with fam­ily mem­bers, friends and other peo­ple around you? My opin­ion is treat them as what you want to be treated by them. Rela­tion­ship build­ing is like a cur­rent account in your bank. You must put in money in order to with­draw when you need it. That means you must put in efforts to cul­ti­vate good rela­tion­ship with all of them.

So far I have touched Account 1 and 2, the next blog will com­plete the accounts of men­tal and money aspects. Stay tuned……

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